I started this blog as a place to vent, a place to connect with others going through similar things. A place where I could be me. The me who’s not afraid what others may think of her. A place to talk about my fears and frustrations. I needed this place. Those that have not or are not going through similar circumstances cannot understand.
I recently had a breach of security. To be more exact, my mom found the blog. As you can imagine that’s not going all that well. I never intended for her to find it. I never intended for her to read my words, though I knew the possibility was there, it is then internet after all. I never meant to hurt her more than I already had by deconverting. I only meant to be me.
For now I’ve password protected most of my posts. Feel free to ask to read, I’m open to sharing my experiences with others, I just would rather my family not read. It hinders my ability to write so honestly.
If you would like the password, then you can email me at theagnosticswife[at]hotmaildotcom
Oh, dear. Another excuse for moral panic. (Pardon the flippancy. While I’m sure they’re deadly serious to your mom, I really just can’t take her concerns seriously.)
I’m sorry for you, though, because I’m sure that means more family drama, and another upset in a relationship that you’d like to keep as warm and loving as possible. I don’t suppose there’s any chance that your mother could be persuaded to close her eyes, turn her back on the blog, and never speak of this again, could she? Hang in there, and… be clear about your boundaries, I guess?
If you or your husband want to chat, you know where to find me. Otherwise, I’ll assume that – reading habits aside – this is basically none of my business. Take care, though, okay?
Oh no! The Tour Guide just said to me yesterday, “You know your blog isn’t really very anonymous, don’t you?” I asked him why he thought that(although I knew this already, really, I’ve plaster our pics on there). He said that anybody would know that’s me because of my stories.
I guess that’s a bridge I’ll have to cross at some point, too. Someone could stumble across my blog. I just didn’t want to use my real name because then it would be all too easy for someone to just google me. Anyone, strangers or friends, could find out way too much info that way.
Anyway, I’m sorry you’ve been compromised here. Like MM said, I’m sure that’s created all kinds of drama for you. It could be a good thing for her to read some of your posts here. She could see your transformation and, at least, maybe not be so angry with the AH? Maybe? Is that even possible? Good luck.
Hi. I am so sorry your mom found your blog. I really enjoy reading about your journey. I tried to send you an email at the address listed but it rejected it.
AW, I’m not sure if I’ve shared here before. So sorry about what you’re going through with your mom. But, probably have to agree with D”Ma.
From my own experience, I’m a committed Christian believer, and all my children just aren’t at least at this time in their lives. But, I would much rather them tell me honestly what they’re thinking and feeling even if it causes hurt in the short term. I want a deeper relationship with them in the long term. I would never want them to feel that they couldn’t be real with me, and have to talk instead with strangers over the internet.
Bottom line, my feeling is that I need to meet them where they’re at, and not simply drag them to where I would like them to be. Ultimately trust God.. Of course, we are all merely human, and sometimes this can be easier said than done. But, it’s certainly something to aim for IMO. Prayers that your mom will come around, and the relationship can be mended.
I’m so sorry. I can appreciate your position. Having been found out and harassed is not fun at all. I hope things are resolved as peacefully as possibly.
Look who it is! Thanks for your kind words. I hope all is well your way.
It is. It very much is. I’ve connected with a writers group and my home life seems to be settled for now. I know I’ve been absent from the interwebs but I assure you that I am well and fine!
That’s excellent! Glad to hear it!
I would love to continue reading your blog. I have admired your courage dealing with your family through this journey.
The email address I’m submitting is my work mail as I use this much more than my personal.
Coming out of the spiritual closet was hard for me too. I did so nearly 15 years ago. My mother is still coming to terms with it. When she finally backed off of me, she begin to try to reign my children in even harder. She tried to tell my children that if they stayed the night at her house on Saturday nights they HAD to go to church on Sunday. I had to put my foot down and say then they won’t sleep over on Saturday nights. Now she doesn’t try to force her faith on them. I think that was part of the reason I never took to the faith. I’m not good at being a sheep…I’m better at being the shepherd. I’m glad you stopped by my blog. I agree that it is nice to meet someone in OK that isn’t trying to smack me with their bible belt. I hope to read more of your journey. Guess I should send that email.