I believe that is happening to me right now. It’s happened to me before, but I think it’s happening again. I think it’s happening on their side as well.
The friend I mentioned the other day, the one who wants me to go get her dog after the rapture, I think it’s happening with her. I’m trying so hard to remember we have years of friendship and our religious differences need not change that. But I think it is. I think it did.
Facebook has once again shown me what someone really thinks about my views. It’s as if they just are unable to be considerate and even nice about it. I do not write about religion on Facebook, however I do like posts from others that I sometimes agree with. Since Facebook now allows people to see your every move, I assume that some of my “likes” have been seen by people on my friends list. She has been posting things for days, way more than she used to, about how God is real and that is can be proven. You get the picture right? Some of it is just silly and you can tell no though whatsoever has gone into thinking about seeing if the data they are posting is sound. I mean things that scientist supposedly said. Silly stuff.
The other night she posted this.
“Atheism treats people cheaply. It robs death of meaning, and if death has no meaning, how can life ultimately have meaning? Atheism cheapens everything it touches—look at the results of communism, the most powerful form of atheism on earth. In the end, when the atheist dies and encounters God instead of the nothingness he had predicted, he’ll recognize that atheism was a cheap answer because it refused the only thing that’s not cheap—the God of infinite value.”PETER JOHN KREEFT, PH.D
It was insulting to me. I’ve heard this before, many times and no matter how you try to explain it, those I have spoken to about this do not understand. At all. They are quite insulting about their insistence of this. So I messaged her.
I see you are posting a lot of stuff about atheism lately. I’m assuming(and you know what assuming can make someone look like if they are wrong:) that it might be geared at me or the AH.
I’m not mad or anything, but you said you might have questions at some point. I was wondering if you had any now, that you might want me to answer?
I probably should have ignored it like I ignore most things on Facebook, but you know I was insulted and I am pretty sure that the AH and I are the only atheist on her friends list, so I assumed those things are being aimed at us. She had not previously posted things like this. She sent me a message back saying that she had not realized she was posting “a lot of stuff about atheism” lately, but that post was not meant to make me or the AH feel bad. That she had been reading and had liked the quote and agreed with it. That she’s very sad for us and promises that there is evidence for God. She used promised several times. She stated she is in “total disagreement with the whole atheism concept. ” She is praying for us daily.
Since then she has posted several more things and is rallying the troops on Facebook to make sure, I assume, that she has support in numbers.
I don’t expect people to tiptoe around me. I don’t expect them to agree with me either. However, I do expect them to be respectful and be aware of how they may make others feel. I’m probably too nice, if there is such a thing, but I always try to do this. It seems that I am more prepared to overlook our differences than they are. They seem to take my disbelief as a personal attack, which I have never, ever tried to make them feel like. I do not think they are stupid for believing the way they do. I never have said that to them, however that is usually not reciprocated.
It has crossed my mind that it is the AH that they are most angry with. He usually does not hesitate to challenge their claims. Though he does it respectfully, providing articles and such I know it ticks them off. He says that Facebook is a social network, that its whole purpose is so you can discuss things and that if something is put out there then the poster should expect that someone may not agree and say something about it. I don’t always agree with that. I think sometimes it’s best to stay quite, but I don’t like to stir the pot. We have gotten into more than one discussion about this.
With that said I do agree that if they have the right to post religious claims and such than those who don’t agree have the same right to disagree and say so. It should be respectfully done. People just don’t like their religion challenged at all.
So, I plan to give this some time. I plan to keep telling myself that she is probably angry and hurt and she needs an outlet and a support system and she is finding that on Facebook. I suppose I am finding that here. That is why I write about it. I appreciate the support from those that are like-minded.
I don’t want our friendship to change. I’m scared it’s going to. I don’t want to lose yet another person due to my disbelief. I’m tired of a god I don’t believe in dictating my life.
So, what say you, about the AH and his opinion on commenting on Facebook? Has your perception changed of someone and it damaged you relationship? Has someone close to you pulled back from you because their opinion of you changed.
Am I too sensitive?